Stuck In The Middle Again

How to start? I said long ago when I made my choice to back our new President that when he did things I felt were wrong I would call him out on it.

Today is the first time I’m ready to speak against him on an issue dear to my heart.Most of you who know me understand my past and my hopes for the future.

While then Mr. Trump campaigned He said over and over he would be the president of all the people and wished to unite us again.He has now embarked on a clear violation of his promise to do so.

I fully understand those on the far right who feel that Transgender people are trying to push our way into their strict view of bathrooms ,on the other hand I understand those on the far left who feel it is their right to do so.

My mind lives in a place somewhere in the middle of these groups,a place that tries to see gray and not black and white. A place where all peoples rights are honored no matter of their views.

Clearly there needs to be a national policy that provides a clear solution to the rights of all,this is not a states rights issue it’s a civil rights issue period. All persons have the right to safe bathroom rights.And there needs to be national standards that protect everyone’s rights.

Especially the young,I was young once my self and these things can have life long impressions,with unintended consequences in later life.

Some many years ago disabled persons were shut out of much of life,Americans rose to the challenge and we gave the  rights they were not afforded by creating the ADA (Americans with disability’s Act ) while some of still bitch about all the empty parking spaces in the front of the the places we go, America moved forward ,stores,public places,and building codes transformed  our lives by making ,ramps accessible bathrooms homes rest parks and on and on available to millions of Americans who were denied these services before and we are better for all these changes.To that end I think we can find the compassion as a nation to apply this kind of common sense to this issue we have proved through ADA that we can change bathrooms to make them accessible to all. Love each other enough to bring a commonsense change That protects everyone’s humanity.


Hugzz to all




I’m mostly silent on the political scene except with friends and family,but tonight I just feel a need to speak my piece about the bathroom issue .


until the State of North Carolina brought the issue to public view little had ever been mentioned about the bathroom issue,as for myself always presenting as a women ,I have for years used the ladies room without ever a bad experience.

Now however I feel concerned about my safety in doing so,

However let me speak to what I feel  is overreach by Obama in regards to the school bathroom order yes I feel what you do in your own stall is private and should be a non issue, the fact that pre-op transgenders should share shower rooms and lockers is not a good thing,I base this on my own thoughts as as teenager who still was exploring my own gender or failings of understanding it.


So let’s put the bathroom thing back as it always was without problems and have a common sense discussion about the shower and locker room thing.


Thanks Butterfly

How do we get to a place of mutual understanding?

I hate to keep going over an issue that really seems to get little coverage on transgender blogs but,when you have first hand experiences that affect you in personal ways it’s something worth mentioning.

What you say am I talking about? it’s the distance between the lgb and the T as much as anyone wants to say that we are somehow in locked arm on issues that concern us all it’s really just an illusion,with most Gay people and particular,those on the male end of the spectrum.

They really have about as much understanding of Transgender persons for the most part as Cis people do.While this isn’t true for all, it tends to be more than not.My peronal dealings with a great many of them,leaves me feeling that they are for the most part a very self centered group of people intrested in moving their own interests forward regardless of what is truly the civil rights movement of our time.

I don’t make these claims lightly  it’s the culmination of years of interaction with gay men,I don’t however find this to be true of  the lesbian community,guess it’s just a girl thing,can’t pin that down for sure,but they just seem more tolerant than their Male counterparts.

Most of you who have followed me for any length of time know that this has been an issue that has had a cumulative part of forming my way of thinking in regards to the LGB—-    T,experience .

Personally I find a gap that lacks very much respect in most of the male gay community  and those of us who are Transgender definitely the struggle is much different for lots of obvious reasons.

I don’t expect this gap t close anytime soon as the goals are far apart,in reality.

As for me I will try my best to close the gaps between all people regardless of their preferences in life.

But I often find some of the LGB   T community out of sync with the real goals of humanity at large.

thanks to all