There’s no one right or wrong way to have this
conversation. Coming out to children can seem a
daunting task. Depending on their ages, you may be
worried about them rejecting you or about their safety
at school if they tell friends.
If you have a partner, spouse, ex-partner or ex-spouse
who is involved in your children’s lives, you may want
to have the conversation together, if that’s possible.
Or you might ﬁnd that bringing a grandparent into the
conversation is a good idea. Your children may have
questions that they feel more comfortable asking
someone else for fear that they’ll hurt your feelings.
Older children, especially, may need more time to
think about the news you’ve shared with them before
they’re ready to talk.
It may be helpful to arrange a family counseling
session to sort through feelings. Giving your children
the ability to talk to other children of transgender
parents can be enormously helpful.